Changing Your Name Without Getting Married
Unmarried couples in the United Kingdom can share the same surname without getting married. Both partners can change their name to match using deed polls.
How it Works
Each partner needs their own individual deed poll. There is no such thing as a joint deed poll or couple's deed poll.
Both partners apply for separate deed polls to change to the same chosen surname. The process is the same as any other name change by deed poll.
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read our full guide on changing your name by deed poll.
Your Options
One Partner Takes the Other's Surname
One partner can change their surname to match their partner's current surname.
For example, if Sarah Jones and David Smith want to share a surname, Sarah can change to Sarah Smith using a deed poll.
Only the partner changing their name needs a deed poll.
Both Partners Choose a New Surname
Both partners can change to a completely new surname that neither of you currently uses. For example, Sarah Jones and David Smith can both become Taylor.
Both partners need individual deed polls for this option.
You can choose almost any new surname. There are some restrictions on what you can change your name to.
Why Unmarried Couples Share Surnames
Couples choose to share a surname for various reasons:
- Commitment and unity without marriage
- To have the same surname as their children
- Family identity and belonging
- Personal or cultural preferences
- Practical reasons for daily life
All of these reasons are valid. You do not need to provide a reason when applying for your deed poll.
Children and Family Names
If you have children together, you may want to share the same surname as them.
Children do not need to have the same surname as their parents. However, many families prefer everyone to share a name.
If your children have a different surname, you can change your names to match theirs, or
change their names to match yours using child deed polls.
The Legal Process
The legal process is straightforward:
- Decide which surname you will both use
- Each partner applies for their own deed poll
- Execute your deed polls (sign and witness)
- Use your deed polls to update your documents and records
You do not need to apply at the same time. However, applying together means you can update documents at the same time.
Each Partner Needs Their Own Deed Poll
You cannot share a deed poll. Each person must have their own individual document.
If You Separate Later
You cannot share a deed poll. Each person must have their own individual document.
No Marriage Certificate Required
Because you are not married, you do not need a marriage certificate for your name change.
Your deed poll is sufficient proof of your name change. You do not need to prove your relationship to anyone.
What Documents to Update
After changing your name, you need to update your documents with various organisations.
See who to inform after changing your name
for a complete list and guidance.
Applying Together
You can apply for your deed polls at the same time or separately. The process is the same either way.
If you apply together, you can:
- Update your documents at the same time
- Avoid confusion about different surnames during the transition
- Show organisations that you are both making the same change
However, you can also apply separately if you prefer. There is no requirement to apply together.
Common Questions
Do we need to prove we are in a relationship?
No. You do not need to provide any proof of your relationship when applying for a deed poll.
Can we choose any surname?
Yes. You can choose any surname that meets the standard restrictions on names. It does not need to be a surname that either of you currently has.
What if only one of us wants to change?
Only the partner who wants to change their name needs a deed poll. The other partner keeps their current name.
Do we both sign each other's deed polls?
No. Each person signs their own deed poll only. Your deed polls are separate documents.
Apply for Your Deed Polls
If you and your partner want to share the same surname, you both need individual deed polls.
Apply online with Deedly. Each partner needs to complete their own application.
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